Happy Monday my faithful reader. Hope you had a lovely weekend.
As you know (’cause you are a faithful reader ) I have fun living my life – reflecting on it – playing with it. And, one of the ways I move thru it is in conversation with myself (careful how you do that in a public space) and others. Few things excite and engage me more than conversations with people I love and respect.
The weekend seemed to be full of great conversations.
I’ve been feeling (and allowing myself to feel) a little overwhelmed about my current workload. I could feel myself moving into a stressed space that will spiral if I’m not very attentive. So, I rang my Pa and we talked about how I was feeling. His view of life and deep love for me is one of my life’s great lodestones. His faith in my ability to get it all done, good old fashioned advice (eat properly and take care of myself) and clear spiritual/emotional guidance (hold to my power to change my attitude and feelings and be still) was exactly what I needed.
Have I got all the work done? Not nearly. What I have done is be honest about how I was feeling and then reframe the ‘stress’ into a calm sort of excitement. Instead of dreading the workload I am now seeing it as an exciting challenge – and – I have asked a few friends to be available should I need to be distracted with a cup of tea or just an ear to offload upon.
A dear friend Mary has been visiting from Oz. We’ve known each other for over 20 years and get to see each other every few years. When we do see each other it’s just like yesterday and we have so much fun catching up. Mary and I have strong, complex and intense personalities – and that’s so engaging and stimulating. We can chat lightly over a glass of champagne (or three) or move to deeply personal conversations about our life purpose, fears and dreams. The last few days have been particularly powerful as we continue to explore passion, purpose, and play. We share our vulnerablilites and have a deep belief in each others power to create a purposeful life and world. Mary is the light in many people’s lives and she’s a star that is very much a part of my life firmament.
Yesterday we were joined by a new friend and over 7 or so hours we talked, laughed, challenged, dreamed – and I even read some poetry (do yourself a favour and buy a book of e.e.cummings poetry – some of the finest and strangest love poems every written).
This morning Mary and I continued our conversation and she gave me some very good advice/insights about what she was seeing in my life right now. Stuff that I was aware of and a little afraid of – and she has given me much needed encouragement and support. Thanks Mary.
In the process of our conversation this morning I mentioned that I have a container that I keep postcards where I write ideas and thoughts. I write away when the moment grabs me and then leave it. I haven’t looked in the container for over 6 months. I found writing I’d forgotten I’d written.
I’m going to share a few of the thoughts I wrote as it feels timely:
- the things we really want to do scare us the most – if it doesn’t create a sense of fear/excitement then it’s not IT.
- I love how changing a word can create a whole shift in attitude – instead of either/or use and. It’s about turning a disconnection into a connection.
- One of life’s many challenges/opportunities is to exist and thrive in complexity.
- We’re a bundle of paradoxes – I love that – and serendipity & synchronocity & magic (but not tragyck).
- It’s always about choices and consequences – knowing what you have control/influence over – and what to let go.
- Hurt, pain, sad memories are allowed to live in us – they are a part of who we are and who we become. When we feel – we are alive. When we think – we are alive. It’s just that none of it needs to own us.
- Making a choice to be authentic in the world is powerful – for me and others – and the consequences vary. So what? That’s out of my control.
- Kindness, compassion, generosity and playfullness – they’re part of my wealth.
- I don’t always ‘get’ why people are puzzled by my comfort and joy in working outside organisational structures. It works for me and who I am. I have never said it’s for other people – that’s for them to work out. I love the way I’ve created a way of working and earning money that really makes me happy.
- There’s no such thing as wasted years – they are part of you.
- How to feel and live your passion with joy not guilt. Guilt has always felt like a redundant emotion to me.
- Why does it matter what other people think?
- When you feel a sense of frustration, confusion and discontent – it’s all good. They’re a message from within of the potential for a new phase, step, direction in your life. Give yourself time to feel them. You don’t always need to push for immediate clarity. It’s important to listen.
- You don’t have to believe in God (or any deity) to believe in the power of synchronicity and attracting amazing coincidental opportunities. I believe that the power of real wishing sends out and attracts people, information and answers. Real wishing connects to an internal passion, belief, value base. It needs to be felt, spoken and seen in as much depth and detail as you can manage. Oh yeh – and then you need a little practice and persistence.
- I’ve reimagined what work is for me: I can earn good money and have autonomy and create change and live my values.
- I love knowing what’s core to my life because how it manifests creates so many possibilities in the world.
- Progress can take time and it can happen real quick – sometimes planned and sometimes driven by circumstances.
- Bring ‘E’ s into your life – enthusiasm, energy, expenditure of passion, effort, engagement, excitement, elegance.
- Allow dark feelings to exist. Give them some time and space to be – and then – allow light, in any form, to come in.
- Where are you focusing your energy? On fear (holding back)? On ‘E’ factors (moving forward)? On reflection (being still)?
- Ask yourself a question – keep asking it – give space for the answer/s to rise.
- Let go of any sense that you have to be perfect. You’re pretty much perfectly imperfect.
- Guess what? The Universe (or however you define the great divine purpose) will always offer temptation when you feel you’ve made a major life decision – testing, testing, testing. I choose to live in Ireland and every time I go back to Oz I’m offered amazing jobs – testing!
- Ever been in a competency/success rut? I have – and it can hold you in place as easily as failure.
- I make judgements all the time – split second and considered – and – I acknowledge it without guilt (redundant emotion). Then – I allow myself to explore more deeply the why, who and how of it all.
- Really seeing people and truly listening is … exhilirating, powerful, exhausting & at times frustrating – and essential in my life.
- Accepting your power and potential is nearly as scary as rejecting it.
- Life is like a really interesting & engaging conversation. It starts … meanders … moves along themes … goes somewhere else … focused and bounds from confusion to clarity … stutters and asks ‘where was I?’ … loses itself in shared laughter … stumbles and then moves gracefully through a topic … never a straight line … always a different pitch, pace and volume.
- Part of the paradox of having goals and dreams is – being open to the unexpected opportunities/serendipities that seem to move you away from them. Whoever said that the journey was a straight line?
- Being able to know, see and feel what’s important in my life – my principles, values and interests – has allowed me to be more open to unexpected opportunities – say no even in really hard times – and attract amazing people, jobs and fun.
There you go. I’m off for a cuppa.
Take good care of yourself and enjoy whatever you’re doing right now.