I’m not highlighting a business in this post.
My sister sent me a letter that was written by the writer Erma Bombeck when she found out she was dying.
It was about what she would do differently if she had her life over again.
I thought about it and wrote this back to my wonderful sister Siobhain.
It’s off the top of my head and written in about 2 minutes … so don’t expect War and Peace folks.
I always loved Erma Bombecks writing … a down to earth and witty woman.
I’m grateful that you are in my life.
I’d not change much of how I’ve lived my life … but I would have liked to have spent more face to face time with you and the mad brothers.
I feel that I’ve lived my life with my heart and spirit … and definitely my ever whirling mind!!
I’ve had some really great times with family and friends … lots of laughter … read more books than I can ever remember … drank lots of fab wine and bubbles (and mostly because I was happy) … really enjoyed nature … listened to my intuition … acted on impulse many many times … been crap in relationships … tried to be kind and generous … slept in lots … done stuff just because … not worried too much (hardly at all) what people think of me … cried and felt deeply … enjoyed eating … had dreams and made some of them happen … had my heart broken (more my pride) but never really been in love (that’s a regret) … had courage when I needed it … asked for help … was honest as I could be … played a lot … was always learning or exploring something … made a difference in some peoples lives … felt despair … felt elation … felt content more times than sad … got to be creative … had some individual style … found a hairstyle that suited me (big life moment! am growing it back to the bob) …
Not a bad life when I look at it … still more to come hopefully.
Love you Von.
Erma ends her letter by saying – Don’t Sweat the small stuff.
She has a point.
SO … this Christmas … enjoy the company of people you love without magnifiying their irritating characteristics … see what you enjoy in them … spend as little money as possible … actually … set yourself the wonderful challenge of seeing how you can spend less money … and speaking of food … don’t get yourself into a frazzled wreck trying to do everything from scratch … chill … buy some stuff ready made …
Basically … you don’t have to be perfect … everyone else doesn’t have to be perfect … no such thing as perfection … way too much hard work … and pretty dull.
I think the thing we probably all need is a little patience – with ourselves and others … and lots of deep breathes.
Leaving the room also helps when it all gets too much …forget about Paris or African safaris … bathrooms are great places to just get away from it all … and it doesn’t look like your having a tempermental fit.
I know it’s a great big cliche … but taking the time to just reflect on what is good in your life (are you breathing? Great, that’s the first good thing) can help provide perspective when it feels like it’s all going pear shaped.
I’m going back to bed for a sleep in (can you call it that if you’ve already gotten out of bed?) … and a read … then I’ll light the fire and decide whether I’m going outside into the cold and the rain today … we’ll see what unfolds.